Grooms-to-be face many decisions regarding their pending nuptials, but few may prove as delicate as choosing the groomsmen for the big day. Friends who expect to be groomsmen may be disappointed if they are not ultimately chosen, while brothers may feel left out if they are not asked to walk a bridesmaid up the aisle.
Choosing groomsmen should not be taken lightly. Grooms-to-be who are facing some difficult choices with regard to that decision can follow a few pointers to ensure they make the right call.
Pick a number. Before you even consider who you want your groomsmen to be, speak to your fiancée about how many bridesmaids she hopes to have. The number of groomsmen and bridesmaids typically matches, so your fiancée’s intentions may make your decision a lot easier.
Choose the best man for the job. Many grooms pick a brother to serve as their best man, and while that’s a nice sentiment, it’s important that grooms recognize that being a best man carries with it some responsibility. A best man will organize the bachelor party, give a toast at the wedding and handle any post-wedding duties, such as returning the tuxes or arranging for the newlyweds’ transportation to the airport.
Don’t forget your fiancée’s family. While you should not feel pressured to pick anyone in particular as your best man, if your fiancée has any brothers, ask her if she had her heart set on including any of them in the bridal party. Some brides want their brothers to be groomsmen, so discuss this with your fiancée before asking anyone to line up beside you. This discussion can go both ways as well, as you can ask your bride-to-be to include a favorite sister in her bridal party if you so desire.
What to wear
After you figure out who will stand with you the big day, it’s time to think about what you are all wearing.
Camillo Ferrari, owner of Camillo’s Tuxedo, with locations in Norwalk and Orange, recommends getting the tuxedo a few months before the big day.
“We suggest they book the tuxedos anywhere from two to four months before the date,” Ferrari said. “That is pretty standard. The members of the wedding party can get measured anytime up to two weeks before the wedding.”
Although groomsmen may be able to take an active role in the wedding, they may do so from out of town or out of state.
“We often times have groomsmen whom are out state send in their measurements and come in for their final fitting when they arrive the morning of or day before the wedding,” said Ferrari. “We have the capability to prepare a tuxedo while the customer waits as well, if necessary — so essentially it is never too soon or too late to get a tuxedo from Camillo’s. This is a service that no other tuxedo vendor can provide as we own all of our stock and always have tailors on site who can make last minute changes or alterations.”
Ferrari — who is the grandson of the founder of Camillo’s, which opened in 1966 — said there are a variety of suits to choose from, especially depending on where and when you’re getting married.
“We have been doing a lot of weddings with our Perry Ellis Silver Sterling Tuxedo, and our Ike Behar Navy Blake Tuxedo and Charcoal Tuxedo; they are great for any time of year,” he said. “Of course, we offer traditional black tuxedos and have countless styles and designers to choose from. We also have full stock of white tie, cutaways, and strollers. For destination weddings we have a full like of tan linen suits which are great for beach weddings. We also carry a full line of formal suits in navy, black and charcoal.”
For more information, find Camillo Tuxedo on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram at camillotux, online at CamilloTux.com or email CamilloTux@optimum.net.